RFA Talk > Willingness vs Trying to be abstinent
Thank you Gail for posting where you are at today. Congratulations on 16 days abstinent. I have been abstinent for 6 years 7 months today by the grace and mercy of God and this program. I know it takes a power greater than myself to get me through each 24 hours, even after all this time. My husband has been battling cancer for the past 2-1/2 years which has put an incredible strain on me as his sole caregiver. Staying mentally, physically and spiritually strong takes work, however, I do not do it alone... God is with me every step of the way, every moment of every day.
I get up each new day and plan my meals; then get my exercise; then get on with the day as it unfolds. Each day has its own challenges, however, I lean on God, eat according to my committed food plan for the day and let go of everything else as I am not in control of anything other than my attitude and willingness.
You can do it. One day at a time is all that is required of you. I often break it down into hours when the circumstances surrounding me are difficult and it really helps me.
Jenny in Henderson, Nevada
Beautiful response Jenny, and thank you. One day at a time.
Gail in Tucson, AZ
If you want to chat via e-mail, my address is gabygirl52@yahoo.com
Jenny in Henderson, Nevada

I am so grateful today. Having lost my abstinence over three years ago I can now say I've got 16 clean days. Again I feel hopeful. I owe this to my Higher Power and to the on-line community(s) available to us who believe that food addiction is a disease and not a moral flaw. I committed to reading posts each day and this has altered my brain waves in such a way that I now think of what has been shared on line rather than participate in the crazy thinking that was leading me back into the food. I am particularly grateful to Kasey in Atlanta who posted on the "Day 1 again" post "To be abstinent is about willingness, not struggle" . It has changed my whole way of looking at this choice to be abstinent. Thank you Kasey, Thank you one and all.